Writing this letter is very hard. What do we say to a person who is making the toughest decision of their life? We can't imagine the anguish you may be feeling as you consider your choices. The decision you are making will never go unnoticed. If you select us, you will always be in our thoughts. Each time we let someone know that your child is adopted, you will be right there with us and the baby The baby you give birth to is the luckiest child. Your baby is fortunate to be brought into this world. You could have very easily ended your pregnancy long ago, but you didn't. You knew you wanted your baby to have a life full of happiness and fortune. You wanted it to have all the love, happiness and chances in life. Not only will this child be brought into this world by someone who loves them very much and will love them as long as they live, but your baby will be loved very much by two more people who weren't blessed enough to give life like you were.

We had been trying for a number of years to conceive a baby. It was very hard emotionally for us not to have a child. Many of our friends that had been married less time than we had, had already been able to start their families. Each time we would hear that they were pregnant our hearts would ache. We felt joy for them, but anguish deep down inside. Our anguish turned to our own joy when we were able to adopt Jack. We are so blessed by Jack, but feel that our family is not complete just yet. We have so much to offer a child, large home with a big back yard, a neighborhood with lots of kids, safety, cousins, the best schools and opportunities, and most importantly, unconditional love. We would feel deeply honored to accept your selfless gift.

We have grown to depend on each other for whatever life throws at us. We have gone through so much heart ache with trying to get pregnant that we know we can always depend on the each other to get through the tough times. We are a perfect match. John is laid back, easy going and I'm the hyper, always-have-to-be-doing-something person. We enjoy spending time with family and friends. We love having people in our home. When family and friends come over we enjoy cooking big meals, sitting around the table and talking about the past (our childhoods). We enjoy being outside as much as possible; whether it is playing on our softball team, golfing, going to the park, playing with our lab, Bailey, or taking care of our yard. We are even outside in the winter. We have an ongoing snowball fight with our neighbor's children. I guess because we are the only adults that will go outside at that time of the year.

We have shared many thoughts on how we will raise our children. We have agreed that we want to raise our children like we were raised. Our parents raised us with love, compassion, tenderness, and very high morals. Our parents taught us to act with our heart. To us, that means that every decision you make in life will affect another person. We want our children to think with his/her heart. We want them to have compassion for others and to love life.

We have thought a lot about what we would tell our children about adoption. We plan to share Jack's special story with him and to share your baby's special story with him/her. We have already begun reading books so Jack understands adoption. When the time comes, we would tell your child what a very brave person you are and about the difficult decision you were faced with. We will tell your child something like this: Your birthparent(s) placed you in a home of loving people who were not fortunate enough to create their own child. We would tell your child that we feel very blessed to have him/her in our lives and even though we did not conceive you, an angel placed you in our hands and in our hearts. We want you to know that emotionally and spiritually you will always be a part of our family, because without you we wouldn't have a family. If you desire, we would be more than willing to share letters and pictures with you.

Thank you for considering us as adoptive parents. We would be deeply honored to become the parents of your baby. Thank you for making our dreams come true and our lives fulfilled. May God bless you for your unselfish act of love.

With all our heart,

John & Sue